I primarily want something simple I can bend to my will, and secondly I want a good out of the box experience. For me that’s been Arch + KDE. The wiki and AUR are great!
I would say every step of the way I just wanted more and more ownership of my system. I make it, I break it. One specific experience which drove me to that camp was the time I had to jailbreak my iPhone and dig through files to disable some deprecated parental control setting… give me ownership over my stuff!
I’ve using localsend and it’s great :)
I would normally use KDE Connect (iOS version) but I had some issues with it. The push local clipboard didn’t work, and I think receiving files to my phone didn’t work either. It also had a hard time reconnecting to my computer after pairing. It might be better now though, this was several months ago.